My rant against mediocrity (Part 2)
In a session held for college students titled ‘Ordinary to Extraordinary’, I repeat this oft used statement-In order to be extraordinary, you have to do that something extra. I say it every single time, because it is something so simple and yet it’s what most people struggle with.
Not only do people struggle with the ‘extra’, it seems that the ‘ordinary’ too has different definitions in everyone’s book and that has led to a whole lot of average.
“Something deep in the human heart breaks at the thought of a life of mediocrity.”
C. S. Lewis
I don’t want to be so cynical as to think that mediocrity is a choice being made intentionally but I also don’t want this culture of mediocrity to permeate into the depths of our society, into the blood of its people, into the DNA of generations to come. So I repeat my the oft used line again, in order to be extraordinary, you have to do that something extra.
What does that look like?
Extra effort:
It has become the norm to put in the least effort, to do the bare minimum and expect all the happiness and success without even trying.
We have become an entitled bunch thinking that with less effort, our life improves when in fact the opposite is true. ‘If I finish this work in two hours instead of three I will be asked to do more work’, someone once told me without realising that the additional work would actually help them learn more skills, faster. ‘I want to enjoy the moment’, someone else said, without realising that drinking every weekend, enjoying the moment meant that they were too hungover to accomplish their long-term goals. This is unfortunately the story of most of us.
We were not meant to live mediocre lives. If that was the case, we would still be living in caves, hunting for our food with sticks and stones and dying by the age of 40 of unexplainable diseases. It was the people who gave their ALL who have built the life and society we see today. The way we show them our thanks is by paying it forward, continuing on the path of effort. It’s a win-win situation for everyone.
Extra compassion:
Me, myself and I has taken the forefront of every thought, decision, and behaviour of ours nowadays. We consider ourselves both the beginning and the end and anything that is different than what we believe, is absolutely wrong.
We behave in ways that we feel is appropriate, completely disregarding others around us- others with varied opinions, backgrounds, experiences and abilities. Why? Because, I have the right to choose, we say. I am important. I cannot be inconvenienced. I will not stand for anything except what I have always known.
I can make my own choices independently but as a member of organized society, I also cannot choose to drive on the right side of the road when everyone drives on the left (or vice versa).Imagine if everyone starts exercising their right to drive in whichever direction they so choose, chaos will ensue. Our lack of compassion for others has caused the same outcome- chaos. Everyone is so busy shouting ‘me, me, me’ that we have forgotten about people and the implications our choices have on them.
Families are stronger when the husband and wife both bring their experiences to the table and build their life together. Parent-child relationships are richer when both sides try and understand each other better. Work life is so much more peaceful and productive when employees-colleagues-bosses have transparent conversations with each other. Friendships are deeper when both friends are open and vulnerable with each other. We were charged to build a world where respect, compassion and love are the undercurrents to every relationship, despite the differences. That’s a world I would like to live in.
Extra convictions:
How many of us refuse to stand up for what we believe in just because no one else is doing so? How many of us get carried away by the flow of the crowd and stoop down to our base instincts of anger, jealousy, pride, because that is considered ‘normal’?
‘Normal’ is not supposed to be our yardstick. Extraordinary is. Greatness is.
When we do not hold on to our convictions or worse, when we do not have any convictions at all, we lower our standards and in the process lower the standards of society as a whole. Qualities like hatred, envy, dishonesty, violence, greed become a part of our DNA. We don’t even realise that it was all our seemingly small decisions to join in the gossip, to lie to protect ourselves, to turn a blind eye to bullying or harassment, to stay silent when we see something wrong, that has led us directly to this place.
Benjamin Hardy aptly puts it in his article titled ‘Mediocrity Is a Virus. Here’s How to Banish It Completely’. He says, “Little things become big things. When you justify and allow even little things into your life which your intuition warns you against, you permit a virus to enter your life. It spreads to other areas”.
Mediocrity is a virus that permeates our lives with just one goal- to destroy. But, when we counter it with that something extra – extra effort, extra compassion, extra convictions and all the other extra that you can think of, the virus is made powerless. ‘Extra’ is the vaccine that works and transforms the ordinary into the extraordinary. Why wouldn’t you want to try it out?
(Read Part 1)
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